Memento Mori: Everyone you know is going to die People who are close to me would die before me, and I’d regret not being nicer to them. Everything else is insignificant in comparison.
The ones you feel for the most, your parents, would probably be the first. Your elder relatives will go. Your childhood friends will go. Your college mates, your ex-es, your crushes. All will go.
Realizing the people we love will be gone someday puts a much higher value on the time we spend with them.A few years ago I spoke with Frank Ostaseski from the Zen Hospice project. I asked him about one of my greatest fears that one or both of my parents wouldn’t be around to see me fall in love, get married, and have kids. It’s hard not to think about when you’re 40, and these things haven’t happened. But rather than tell me how to deal with the fear, he said I should spend time with my aging parents now, not only after some significant milestone had occurred. It’s not like we’re the Brady Bunch. My sister moved far away for medical school and was gone for the better part of the last decade. After years of living at home, I’m sure my parents were as tired of me as I was of them. Sometimes I”m messy which drives my mom crazy. And other times I make decisions that don’t make any sense to my dad. Despite our differences, the doors always open and food is always on the table. So after my 40th birthday, I decided to start going home for dinner every Sunday.
“If I only had three words of advice, they would be, Tell the Truth. If got three more words, I’d add, all the time…Time is all you have and you may find one day that you have less than you think.” - Randy Pausch
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